Some Do’s and Don’ts of Facebook
We all have a pretty basic understanding of how to use Facebook, but there are some things you should be doing and some things you should never, ever do.
Facebook is great. I really like using it. It keeps me connected to my friends from childhood, to my coworkers and community. I like seeing what everyone is up to, but one thing that I don’t like and I know I’m not alone here, is constant updating. There are a couple of friends I have that post over and over and over again and it gets so irritating, I actually have hidden them. Susan Baroncini-Moe, business and marketing strategist and author of Business in Blue Jeans says constant posting is what Twitter is for. Instead, set updates for a few hours apart. That way you’re posting, but it’s not one right after the other.
I will admit, I am the grammar police. Sorry about that, but proper spelling and grammar is important when you’re trying to get a message out on Facebook. When you’re looking for a job, there are two things that are usually on it. Number one being “strong written and verbal communication skills”. The other is links to your social media. If a prospective employer checks on your Facebook page and see that you constantly misspell things or use improper grammar, you may get skipped in the interview process. Instead, if you aren’t sure of how to spell things or how to use a certain word, Scott Mitic, CEO of TrustedID, says before you post whatever it is you’d like to share, do it offline where you can use spell check.
Speaking of jobs, there are a few things you should never, ever do unless you want to never, ever be hired or lose your job on the spot. First, if you call in sick and you’re not, don’t check in at the beach, the mall, the game, etc. If you’re friends with your coworkers, they could squeal. Second, controversial content or photos that depict too much skin or excessive alcohol use isn’t going to paint a very good picture. Scott says you may not post these images, but your friends might, so untag yourself or change your settings to block yourself from being tagged. Also, don’t post negative things about work. Your boss may be an idiot, but if they were any smarter, you wouldn’t have a job. What you should do is change your audience access for certain posts, or put your boss and coworkers on a “not safe for work” list. Just, don’t forget to use it.
You’re in love. It’s great and wonderful, but we don’t want to see it and chances are, you could be unintentionally embarrassing your partner. I know someone who actually deleted their page because that’s all their girlfriend was posting on his page. The other option is to prevent anyone from posting on your page. Psychologist Dr. Joseph Cilona says that romantic relationships are difficult enough without the added complication of social media. If your partner is the guilty party, politely ask they refrain from posting syruppy sweet ooey gooey love notes on your page. If you’re in love and need to tell your partner every 15 minutes how much you love them, save it for instant messaging.
On the other end of the relationship spectrum, one of the first places attorneys go when the divorce process starts is Facebook. Attorney Michael Helfand says that he is seeing social media sites like Facebook be used as evidence all the time. Michael says never post something you wouldn’t want to talk about in front of the judge. He says more and more people in family law cases like child support, divorce or custody cases are getting caught lying. Instead, keep your feelings to yourself or delete your page all together.